Category: Relationships

I Had To Unlearn These!

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There are so many lies that one needs to unlearn about women and relationships. Hollywood has dictated a lot of things concerning relationships. They have pushed an agenda that’s seeing the rise in the fall of men today. Without wasting much time, let’s dive right into it, feel free to add yours in the comment section below;

1. She is not a princess. You are not prince charming.

2. Romantic love is not unconditional, it is an exchange of value. It is ‘give and take’. “Only women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally” – Chris Rock

3. Life should never revolve around your relationship 24/7.

4. There are no soulmates. Don’t let this BS idea of “the one” keep you bound to a dysfunctional relationship.

5. A man whose life revolves around his relationship and girlfriend all the time is not loved more in reality. Rather, he is despised by his woman.

6. If you are going to spend your life together, you need to make money, so go to work. Life doesn’t run on romance.

7. It gets boring and mundane at times. Expecting adventures, fun, surprises all the time is not realistic.

8. Breakups are not the end of the world. Move on.

9. No woman is one in a million. There are 1000 others just like her. Stop getting heartbroken over a rejection or breakup.

10. The man who chases the woman isn’t proving himself. He is proving how worthless he is. These types of guys get friendzoned, never laid.

11. Life isn’t a movie. It is a journey of both good times and the bad times.

12. Women and relationships are a part of it, they aren’t everything. Focus on yourself and your work. Add a little romance to it with a worthy woman.

13. Don’t go insane in “love”. Stay rational and have fun.

It actually felt good penning down some thoughts. It had been ages. Hopefully I will be around here more often. Be Blessed, Peace!

That First Date…

When you meet a stranger, they have absolutely no idea of the person you really are. They have a certain perception of you and the way you allow that someone to treat you will ultimately form the real opinion about you in their mind. Feel free to read that again.

An average man will go on a date with the mentality that she is already above him and he has to impress. I know this for a fact because it used to be me. So for the average man now he has to do all in his power to please her. As men we seek so much validation from women and it’s bad. When she misbehaves and clearly disrespects him by being on her phone for example when they’re supposed to be spending time getting to know each other, the average man won’t even feel the disrespect. Instead he is thinking of ways to get her attention so that she doesn’t lose interest in him!

An alpha male is there to have fun and is a high value man that when he goes out on a date, he is assessing the girl based on her behaviour and seeing if she has any real potential to be with him and not the other way round. So as the man you determine who you want to date based on your green flags, you’re the gatekeepers of relationships Gentlemen. You make the call as to who it is you want to be in a relationship with. Slow to hire and quick to fire.

If she is a decent person, she ought to realize that it is disrespectful towards the guy to be on the phone unless its extremely urgent she cannot avoid it. If she doesn’t show any sign of being sorry or doesn’t excuse herself with permission, as a high value man you don’t waste a second on this person, you walk away.

If you can’t get her respect from that first date, she is not the person for you and you do not waste your precious time on such low value women. Time is money and it’s never recovered. Don’t waste your time on women that don’t regard you as high value enough and for as long as you’re in Africa, that first date shouldn’t cost you more than $USD7.50 or else you become another ticket for her to enjoy free good fancy meals. Otherwise women have respect for what they work for and she should be willing to work hard and prove herself to you. You’re a King, know your worth.